letters

Continue, or Game Over

Continue, or Game Over 150 150 Letter To My Ex

Dear Sarah,

Why? Why did you ruin everything? To this day I’m not even remotely sure if you actually loved me, or if you were just obsessed with me. I guess it doesn’t really matter any more. The end result was the same.

You were supposed to be the one. My forever Player Two. The person who finally washed away all the other heartbreak I’d gone through. Instead, you ended up being the last chapter of my quest for true love. I once said to you “It’s you or no-one.” It looks like that may have been more true than even I realised, because since we parted I’ve been cursed. Failed dates, a really ill-fated attempt to get back with another ex, and now no-one is even remotely interested in having me as their other half.

The worst part is, part of me still misses you. That cute smile, infectious laugh, your sense of humour, the way your hair felt when I brushed my fingers through it or how your lips felt on mine. How you’re the one lass who would play something like Stellaris or Chivalry with me. When we watched awesome (and terrible) films and shows together. You don’t know how strong the urge is to actually try and talk to you again, that old ‘what if we can fix it?’ voice sounding out in my heart.

The problem is, my head tells me something else. How you became so incredibly distant during our last time together. How you kept changing your mind on how you apparently felt for me. The fact that you thought it was fine to poison a good friend against me (and I know you had something to do with that, I wasn’t born yesterday), and all because your insane and irrational jealousy told you to do so.

No, I’m not perfect. I pushed you away at times. I was battling my own issues; my mental health and my past traumas. You know fine well what losing someone else before you did to me and I was working through that. I needed closure. But you expected me to drop all my issues to make way for yours. That isn’t how it works.

But the damnedest thing of all, Sarah? I’ll never forget what you told me right before we got back together for the last time. “I hate the fact that I feel this way for you.” I think that was the truest thing you ever told me, and all I can remember now is that, plus the toxic things that you decided it was fine to do.

So, thanks for breaking my heart completely and taking the last ounce of belief I had in this thing called ‘true love.’ Yet, you can’t seem to let go, can you? You were all around my friendship circle, hovering on the edge and stalking my social media. You just won’t let go of me, will you? Even after everything that happened.

I just don’t see a way we could ever be together again; the damage is too great. If you truly are sorry, then find a way to talk to me and tell me instead of this weird stalkerish behaviour. If you really don’t care though, then just leave me in peace.

It’s been almost 4 years, Sarah. Either prove to me that you actually ARE the one, or stay where you belong…in my memories.

Read letter

And you didn’t even hear me out

And you didn’t even hear me out 150 150 Letter To My Ex

Hey, 

I’m writing this in hopes to release this feeling I’ve been keeping inside me. You know, it pains me how you didn’t give me any warning signs how the relationship was about to end. I only had a day to process and then done. I hate how I didn’t get a chance to ease your worries, change your mind, or even hear me out. 

I hated how you asked for opinions from everyone around you except me, the one involved in the relationship. When it was my time to hear it out, your mind was made up and not an ounce of me could even change it. I knew that even if I begged for you to stay and give me a chance, I knew that in the long run, I’d just suffer.

I hated that you decided for me as well. I hate how you decided that I wouldn’t be happy with you in the long run just because I was willing to leave my family and friends and move to a foreign place with you. 

I hate how you didn’t even ask for my opinion. 
I hate how even if you erased me from the equation the moment you had your mind set.
I hate how deep down, I am making excuses so I wouldn’t paint you as the bad guy in my mind.
I hate how easily you are bearing this breakup when this is crushing me from within.
I hate how you made me be afraid of nights.
I hate how you made me scared of having the lights out.
I hate how I built so much of myself, worked so hard to be in remission, only for you to break me back into tiny pieces I HAVE TO REBUILD AGAIN. 
I hate how I loved you so much. I loved you with my whole heart and that wasn’t enough.
I hate how I couldn’t fully hate you. 

Because at the end of the day, my love is always bigger than hate.
My understanding is bigger than my jealousy. 
My heart was bigger than yours.

Read letter

Too late for me, you’re better off

Too late for me, you’re better off 150 150 Letter To My Ex

Today, I was going through belongings since I’m moving. I found the storage bin with our wedding album. It would have been 30 years in December. I never should have opened the album..seeing your handsome face just shattered my soul.
I have never forgiven myself for ruining the best thing that ever happened to me: You. You don’t know that I carry this weight of regret and guilt to this day. I know I apologized, but it didn’t help at all.
I know you moved on a long time ago. I know you’re still with her, in the big house with the Porsche. I’m glad you finally got your dream car. I hope she makes you happy. I hope your life is good. I can’t tell you these things now, because you moved on and none of it matters to you.
I never loved anyone in the way I loved you. I searched for it, and it never entered my life again. I would give anything to have a second chance. 
If I had a time machine, I would go back and redo that whole year. As stupid as this is, I even researched if I could somehow with meditation. 
I’ll take the loss of you to my grave. You definitely deserve better than me. I hope you will forgive me truly, one day.

Read letter

Wid

Wid 150 150 Letter To My Ex

My once in a life time love. 

You will probably never read this, and that’s why I can let these words exist. Finding a place to let my emotions speak without causing any problem or crossing any boundaries .

You’re the love of my life, I love all of you and I miss you every second. 

My love isn’t loud anymore, or dramatic. The way I spoke of it in the past. It’s bigger than the ocean but silent. It’s an ache, living with a heart that belongs to you. 

I miss you in the smallest moments. Songs I want to send you. Good looking clouds that I want to share. Any random thought through the day. Anything funny that happens. But sadly, it doesn’t work this way anymore.

My mind still builds a future with you .i still daydream of you as if we never ended things. Like there is a version of us that made it in this world. Somewhere where I imagine us making it. 

You’re not just my love. You’re my queen . My safest place. My home. The person that my heart calls mine completely.

Even from a far, and after this time, you never left my prayers. I pray life has been gentle. I pray your nights are lighter and happier. I pray for your peace, laughter , success, and a love that never make you question anything and feel your worth within in it.

Even if I’m not longer standing beside you. I root for you without noise. I admire you from distance. I celebrate every imagined victory and success your life might having. 

All of me will always belong to you. Not because I can’t move on, but because your love left a mark on my soul that will never leave. My soul is tied to yours. I just learnt how to live with it. 

Wherever you are, I pray that the world is treating you nicely and kind. 

If I crossed your mind, or your heart remembers my name for a second, I hope you know and are reminded that somewhere out there there is someone who never stopped being your number one fan.

Balona

Read letter

Years later and I still love you

Years later and I still love you 150 150 Letter To My Ex

I can’t believe I’m writing this when it’s been years since we talked or saw each other. We both moved on with our lives, have a family of our own but you took a piece of my heart with you that I’ll never get back and believe me, I miss it dearly. Years have passed and I never forgot you, as a matter of fact I never stopped loving you. I never held on to the hope of us being together again because I knew that would never happen.

I have to confess something. Even though I’m married, l constantly longed for your touch, your kisses, the fire and passion you ignited in me and the way I felt with you. After you, I never felt that again. Been married for years. He’s a good man but unfortunately I never felt with him what I felt with you. I wonder how our lives would’ve been had we stayed together. I fantasized a lifetime with you. I’ll never get to tell you everything you meant to me. Just know that the moments I spent with you were one of the best moments of my life. I will never regret you – you were everything I ever wanted.

I’m sorry for being insecure and scared and not telling you that I love you. Maybe this lifetime wasn’t meant for us. But if there’s another life, look for me – I promise to never let go again.

Read letter

All The Things You Left Me

All The Things You Left Me 150 150 Letter To My Ex

Colin,

We broke up yesterday because you said you were too unhappy in our relationship to keep going. You talked on and on about fighting for your love, but you never really fought, did you? The day before we broke up, you kept trying to make it up to me in advance. Pointing out my new nails, holding my hand during the car ride in a way you hadn’t since early spring, even kissing my cheeks and play-fighting again. But you refused to kiss me on the mouth. We watched hours upon hours of our shows together, and you didn’t kiss me once. I remember a time when we couldn’t get through 10 minutes of a show without making out. What did I do to make you stop caring? To make you put stipulations on your love for me when you broke up with me? 

I’ve started listening to the songs you didn’t like, watching our shows without you, and finally talking to my friends about what our relationship was really like. It broke me to see you fall out of love with me over the past six months, so I started to fall back in love with myself. I have also used the time away from you to focus on my hobbies and my mental health in a way I couldn’t when you were monitoring my time. Though I have cried over our breakup, I have not cried nearly as much as I did when we were together. 

At the risk of sounding bitter, I’ll say this: I hope you never find love again. Emotionally, I poured myself out to you, and all you did was take. Never once have I seen you shed a tear or look genuinely sad. I do not wish my worst enemy upon you and your cold heart. You are simultaneously the person I have loved and hated the most. 

You left me with our half-watched shows, inside jokes, and your gifts. I hope I left you haunted.

Read letter

The text I can’t send:

The text I can’t send: 150 150 Letter To My Ex

Hey J. I hope you’re doing well. I just wanted to tell you that I still think about you everyday. I wonder what you’re doing and how you are, and honestly I don’t know when I’ll ever stop. I think I’ll always be thinking about you, because I genuinely care for you and hope you’re okay.

I can’t stop caring about someone I loved for two years and I hate it. I’m not here to ask you for anything or any favours. I genuinely miss you every single day. I regret so much leaving you that day, I wish I didn’t. I keep telling myself everything happens for a reason but I don’t get why I’m still thinking about you when I shouldn’t. I keep trying to forget about you, hate you, pretend you don’t exist but I can’t.

I fell in love with you for a reason. I know you’re a good person, so I can’t ever hate you, you’ve done so much for me. I’m sorry for the way things ended and everything after that. 

I hope you know just how much I loved you and cared about you. You were my #1 every single day for almost two years. Some people tell me that’s short and some say it’s long, but it was so nice to have someone by my side for that long and know me so well inside and out. I loved getting to know you and growing to love you more everyday we were together. I truly wanted forever with you. There wasn’t a day where I didn’t love you or want you in my life. I don’t know where you are in your life but I hope you achieve everything you want. Wherever you end up down the road I hope that you’re happy. I’ll always hope the best for you and support you from afar. Even though we’re going our separate ways, I’m so thankful to have known you and be loved by you for a small part of my life. 

I know with every part of me that what we had was real and was real love and I’m so grateful for it all regardless of how things have ended between us. Every tear, every smile, every laugh during those years was all because of you. Some weren’t good but many were. I can’t describe how much I appreciate all you’ve done for me. I’ll forever be thankful of you whether or not we ever see or talk to each other ever again. I’m not expecting a reply or anything, take this as me letting go, moving on and saying my piece. I’ll always care about you no matter where I am in life. You’ve impacted me in so many ways and I’ll never forget it.

Read letter

What do you tell people?

What do you tell people? 150 150 Letter To My Ex

Maddie, 

Yes, I know that’s your name. Found out a few months ago. Four and a half years I knew you, and you never mentioned you had told me a fake name. Or the real reason why you treated my roommate’s name as an inside joke I was too dumb to understand. Or why ‘white picket fence’ was your catchphrase. Over the past few months, I found out a lot of things about you. Things you tell someone you actually plan to stay with. Things you withhold from someone you’re only using as an experience. 

Not the point. I’m over it. I have a crush on someone new. She likes me back. Soon, we will have to have the dreaded our-dating-history talk. This makes me think: what do you tell people when they ask about your dating history? Many people don’t count e-dating as real dating. 

In my case, I have had a one night stand with one person. Now, when my dates ask about my experience, I conflate you two into one person. Because to have e-dated is just straight up embarrassing. This knowledge would give people the ick. 

So I say:
Yes, I have only kissed one person. Yes, my body count is one. Yes, I have been in one relationship. Yes, she was a touch-me-not, which is why I only have experience receiving and not giving. Yes, she told me she wanted to marry me. 
I don’t mention the part where all of these are split between two people. 

What do you do, Maddie? Knowing you, you probably just pretend I never existed. Skip me completely. I heard you still live with your parents, working in the same building as your dad. You seem stuck. I suspect you still haven’t come out. Thus, I suspect I shall forever remain a secret. A ghost of someone you buried in an unmarked grave. 

Pity your book got cancelled. At least I think it did? I saw the announcement it would come out in 2022 but it still hasn’t. I saw sneak peeks. There were things you had written for me, like the part about watching the stars. Or the deer thing, where you passive aggressively claim I’m only imagining that you’re abusing me. I would have bought the book. I really would have. Please contact me and let me know if they change their mind and do allow the book go through. I’m subscribed to your online literary thing but it seems to focus on other peoples works more.

Ah, also, a pet peeve about something I just found out: in the paper you wrote, you name your sister as your best friend. But at the time, you were telling me I was your best friend. Maybe I shall truly remain a secret in your lore. 

I’m so sleepy as I type this right now. I nearly passed out and my phone fell on me just now. Goodnight.

Read letter

The idiot

The idiot 150 150 Letter To My Ex

I wish I had realised sooner what a waste of time you were.
I wish I had given up on you the first time you gave up on me
I wish you the worst, and yet I only feel so awful by that thought. Honestly you don’t deserve anything good in life, after ruining mine. You showed me love, you showed me care, you showed me confidence and now you broke me beyond repair. 
I wish to thrive through all this and I wish you stay miserable. 
I wish you get betrayed so bad by that toxic friend of yours, the one you never cared to to reprimand for how awful he treated me.
I wish you stay in that toxic, ugly cycle you created with that person and get so fucked by them you never recover.
I wish you had cheated instead of giving me false hope.
And 
I wish you never betrayed me, but you did
I wish I didn’t waste my best years, but I did
And now
I wish for me to find peace
I wish for me to move on so far and beyond you, you won’t even see me thrive
I wish for me to be strong
And

For once in my life
Wish
You never existed…
But you do
So instead
I wish
You never get anything good in love again…
You ungrateful, miserable, sad little prick.
Goodbye

Read letter

Pancake

Pancake 150 150 Letter To My Ex

Oh Pancake,
I’ve been thinking a lot lately, and one thing I’ve realized is that I don’t miss some grand idea of a relationship. I miss you.
I miss the little traditions we built without even realizing we were building them. I miss going to the movies together and talking about them afterward. I miss sitting across from you at Olive Garden and somehow making a simple dinner feel like an adventure. I miss getting ice cream and wandering around with nowhere important to be. I miss listening to Oasis, The Beatles, and all the songs that slowly became ours over time.
I miss the excitement of seeing your name pop up on my phone. I miss hearing about your classes, your family, your dreams, your frustrations, and the random things that made you laugh. I miss being the person you called when something good happened, and I miss being able to celebrate every achievement right beside you.
The truth is, you became woven into my everyday life in a thousand tiny ways.
What hurts isn’t just losing a girlfriend. It’s losing my favorite person to share those moments with.
At the same time, I want you to know something that I hope never gets lost in all of this.
I don’t blame you.
I know things became overwhelming. I know you felt like you lost parts of yourself while trying to hold everything together. As much as it hurts, I never wanted you to sacrifice yourself for our relationship. I loved you because you were Petra, not because I wanted you to become less of yourself.
I wish I had understood some things sooner. I wish I had been better at trusting instead of worrying. I wish I had given more room when room was needed. There are things I would do differently if I could.
But I don’t regret us.
Not one bit.
If someone gave me the chance to go back and relive every movie, every drive, every meal, every laugh, every FaceTime, every hug, every late-night conversation, knowing exactly how much this would hurt one day, I would still say yes.
Because loving you was one of the greatest gifts of my life.
And even now, my love for you hasn’t turned into anger or resentment. It has turned into gratitude.
Gratitude that I got to know you.
Gratitude that I got to love you.
Gratitude that for a while, we got to build a life together.
I don’t know what the future looks like. Maybe our paths cross again. Maybe they don’t. But I know that no matter where life takes us, there will always be a part of me that smiles when I think of you.
I will always root for you.
I will always want good things for you.
And I will always be grateful for the memories we made together.
Love,
Alex

Read letter
Back to top