Dear Erica,

  I know this may not be an entirely appropriate letter to be writing, but I thought that you should know the truth.  Before you delete this, please hear me out and know that it is not my intention to cause any more pain than I already have, but only to expose the truth. Because I do feel that you should know the truth about the man that you keep going back to despite being tossed aside again and again.  And perhaps this won’t make any difference and will just be deleted, but here it is none the less.

   There is a saying, if he cheats with you, he will cheat on you.  Erica, he cheated on you.  We were together before you were broken up.  I know that he told you that we weren’t, but we were.  (yes, I understand that this makes me just as guilty, but I was not in a relationship with you, he was) The day that you lovingly sent him off to help me find a car, he was all over me.  Hands and mouth all over my body.  The day we went to the Big E together, same thing.  He was texting me pictures of his penis, a week prior to these days.

He told me that in the year and a half since we had first “met” that at least 40-50% of the times he was having sex with you, he was picturing/thinking about me.

I know that every time we “broke up” he ran back to you and that he never truly left you or let you go.  It finally dawned on me that he never would.  You are safe for him.  You will not tell him, No.  You learned your “lesson” in March when you guys broke up.  But is that the kind of relationship that you want? One where you are being cheated on and lied to and used when his current relationship is failing?  You are a good and decent person and I truly hope that you can see him for who he is.

I had no idea.  I thought he was a good and decent person too. I trusted and believed him, But now my eyes are open and I hope that yours can be too. i hope you see your worth as more than someone to be used, especially by him.

He told me that he cheated on Dawn with Kelly, “because she got naked in front of me, and, I’m a guy”.  That one sentence kind of sums him up.  I thought he was different. I thought that all the things he told me about being in love with me for  a year and wanting to marry me and never doing anything about it because I was out of his league, were true.  They were not and he is not.  He even told you that if you two weren’t dating that he would peruse me.  And still you hung on.  You deserve more and I deserve more and I am so sorry that I put either on of us through this.