I thought you were what I was looking for. Beautiful Korean man with gentleness and calmness, very quiet at times…maybe too quiet. And not necessarily someone to end up with, but someone to experience a healthy, caring relationship with. A nice break from a few rough relationships involving verbal abuse and commitment-phobia. Boy, did I get this wrong. I opened my heart to you and I am sure you did as well and it couldn’t have ended in a worst way than it did.

Your angry letter to me was so passive and the fact that we were breaking up like this over email without ever having an argument or any type of discussion on the things you brought up in your letter really tells me about who you are as a person. All made worse by the fact that you did this the day before my birthday (second year in a row this has happened to me, but with a different person last time).

Are all men this insensitive? Sometimes I wonder, but I know it’s not fair to downcast all men because of these inconsiderate individuals. I just think we all need to remind ourselves that if it walks like a duck, talks like a duck, then it is a duck. I will always be the person to understand someone’s faults, to voice these concerns, and give someone a million chances. But I think that time stops now. I have learned the hard way too many times and I think having these experiences on my birthday are a lesson to protect myself and listen to my gut.

The only thing I can thank you for is saving me future heartache, validating how nasty of a person you are, and how I deserve so much better. I will never ignore my gut again and will come out a stronger person than I ever thought I could be. The joke is on you.