She knew what type of person she was, that’s why she had promised to herself that she would never fall in love. She had told herself that she would not date until she was in University. She wanted to marry the first person she dated so that she won’t know what being heartbroken feels like. She knew she gets attached easily, love easily and trusts easily. She had her own plans. She wasn’t looking. You were unexpected. You came into her life without even trying. She had told me about a guy who sat next to her in Biology class; how kind and how much of a gentleman he was. I didn’t know the guy in biology class was you until a month later. She didn’t want to tell us your name, so you became the “guy in biology.” I think the more she spend time with you, the more she knew that she could actually really fall for you. But you were from a different race, different nationality, and different cultures. She had been warned about your type; how they’ll never really settle or how they move on fast or how their mind changes quickly. So she asked you if you two should stop, but you told her that you “like dating her.” She had given you chances to run while you have the chance.
Her mother and those around her had warned her, but you kept saying you would never hurt her. She really believed that you would never hurt her. She really believed all the promises you made to her. I don’t think you understand how much you mean to her. I don’t think you know how much she is giving herself into this relationship.

But thank you.
Thank you for breaking up with her. Thank you for breaking her heart into pieces. Thank you for breaking your promises, empty promises that you made to her. Thank you for making her lose her confidence. Thank you for making her question everything about herself. Thank you for leaving her as if the past months you were together meant nothing. Thank you for the pain you caused her. You were her first relationship and love after all. She had given every part of herself to you. She was so sure that you would never break her heart. Thank you for proving her wrong. Thank you for leaving a scar that she’ll never forget. You left quite a mess for her to clean up by herself. She is trying to hide her heartache so that her mother won’t say “I told you so.” Because despite her mother and friends’ warnings, she chose to trust you. Thank you for teaching her a lesson that she truly did not deserve. Next time she’ll choose wisely on who she allows in her life. Next time she’ll remember to never trust and love easily again.

She really did like you. She could see herself loving you. She was genuinely happy. Whenever she talk about you, she would have a huge smile and her eyes would sparkle. She wanted to be the best girlfriend for you. She wanted to be supportive and be there for you during tough times. She didn’t want to bother you all the time in case you thought she was being too clingy. She was scared that if she opens all of herself to you, you would lose interest. She was trying to avoid any problems that might end the relationship. But that doesn’t matter anymore. I asked her why you broke up with her and she said it was because she wasn’t good enough for you to stay. She has nothing but good things to say about you. I feel sorry for you because she thought you were the most amazing boy ever. If she could have had any guy in the world, she still would have picked you.

I’m sending you this message because I want you to know that she is not one of your conquests. She is not one of your lists to add as your girlfriend or people you slept with. While you’re out there pitying yourself and the situation you’re in, she is here suffering more than you yet chose to put on a smile. You’ll never understand what’s behind her smile. You were the only thing she would ever get excited about. She’ll let you go, though. She will. You and your friends were probably laughing about this. You probably don’t care. But that’s okay. You don’t have that much power over her. She might hate herself at the moment, but one day she’ll learn to love herself again. And by then, she won’t even remember your name anymore. You are just a boy, not a man. She’ll meet someone who knows she’s worth more than enough. She’ll meet someone who will keep the promises that you made. She’ll meet someone who won’t run away when things get tough. There are other men, don’t worry. Thank you for giving them the chance.

She didn’t want to let you go. She promised you that she would never let you go. But she is going to let you go. She will. There would be no point of keeping her promise when you haven’t kept any of your promises.

I’m writing this letter to you because I want you to know how much you’ve broken her, but also how much stronger she’ll become. Thank you.