Dear replacement,
I know you probably feel like you won a battle because he finally decided to let you and your son move back in with him. It must seem like you waited years and years for this moment to happen. Is this the reason why you decided not to move on in the last four years? I know you blamed me and hate me for thinking I ruined your relationship with him. Well it wasn’t me who got in between you and him. It was actually him who approached me and told me he was a single father. He talked horrible things about you. I know the day you found out he was seeing someone new you suddenly became enraged and felt betrayed by him I also know you had been planning on doing this since a while back and maybe that is why you took a break even though he promised me you two were done. Well the day you called the police on him for domestic abuse, I was the first person he contacted. He was devastated and not because he felt regret in mistreating you but because he was so worried about his reputation and record. I believed him and how he said you lied and he never hit you. I felt bad for him, I suddenly became his shoulder to cry onto. I was there for him, I fell in love with him and I thought he had also fallen for me. We planned our beautiful daughter.
I know you probably thought he had changed. Guess what? He didn’t… he put me through hell and although I never called the police on him I knew I would have had every reason to but didn’t because I thought he’d never mistreat me again but again came too soon. It wasn’t just verbal or physical it was emotionally. I soon left for my sake and for my daughters well being. She was just a year old. See? I didn’t last with him but he begged me for almost two years but I saw no change. Don’t you realize? If it was you he truly loved he would have looked for you after I left him but he begged me for almost 2 years until he finally realized I had set strict boundaries and told him I wouldn’t go back to him if I saw no effort to change. That is why he looked for you and I’m sure you thought you had Won! Sorry to say it but you didn’t; you actually saved me from his abuse from the constant degrading, constant phone calls of shaming me, the emotional abuse the threats. YOU saved me from losing my sanity. My daughter and myself are in a better place now. I know my worth and I have learned to value myself because thats one thing he steals from you, your worth because he makes you feel worthless. I hope it’s not too late for you to run, run as fast as you can with you son; he deserves a better father figure. Please take good care and learn to value yourself.